Cuantas veces hemos actuado impulsivamente al ver que dos o mas niños están en un conflicto, y muchas veces lo primero que hacemos es gritar, regañar, espantarnos por que no queremos que ningún niño salga herido y todas esas acciones no nos permiten actuar de forma adecuada.
Es hasta cierto punto entendible, ya que en nuestras manos tenemos una gran responsabilidad y no queremos que les pase nada a los pequeños,pero tenemos que aprender a guardar la calma,suena fácil pero no lo es.
Las causas mas comunes por los que los niños de la edad de preescolar pelean es porque no obtienen los resultados que ellos quieren, pero eso no quiere decir que sean malos,recordemos que están en un proceso de aprender la convivencia social,respeto a los puntos de vista de sus pares, y a adquirir autocontrol.
Una buena opción que te recomiendo es que utilices algún método de solución de conflictos, escribelo en una cartulina y pégalo en un lugar visible tanto para ti como para los niños, hay muchas opciones pero en esta ocasión te compartiré la del psicólogo David P. Weikart y es la siguiente:
- Acercarse con calma, parando cualquier acción o lenguaje ofensivo.
- Reconociendo los sentimientos.
- Recopilando información.
- Replantenado el problema.
- Pidiendo ideas para las soluciones y elegir uno juntos.
- Dar apoyo y seguimiento según sea necesario.
Siguiendo estos pasos cuando exista algún problema será mucho mas fácil la solución y sobretodo no te inclinarás por ninguna de las partes involucradas, además enseñarás a los niños a seguir los mismos paso para cuando estén en algún conflicto y ellos poco a poco aprenderán a resolverlos solos, créeme que esta práctica te servirá demasiado.
Como todo en un principio será difícil recordar los pasos, pero para eso estarán siempre visibles y si no te convence esta opción puede buscar otros métodos hasta que consigas la que a ti te convenga.
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How many times have acted impulsively to see two or more children are in conflict, and often the first thing we do is yell , scold , do not want to frighten any child getting hurt and all those actions do not allow us to act appropriately .
Is to some extent understandable , since in our hands we have a great responsibility and we do not want anything happen to the children, but we must learn to remain calm , sounds easy but is not.
The most common causes for children of preschool age fight is because they do not get the results they want, but that does not mean they are bad , remember that they are in a process of learning social coexistence , respect for points of view of their peers , and gain self-control.
A good option that I recommend is that you use some method of conflict resolution, write it on a card and stick it in a conspicuous both for you and for kids , there are many choices but this time we will share the psychologist David P. Weikart and is as follows :
Approach calmly , stopping any action or strong language .
Recognizing feelings.
Gathering information .
Replantenado the problem.
Asking ideas for solutions and choose one together.
Provide support and monitoring as needed.
Following these steps when there is a problem will be much easier solution and especially do not bow down by any of the parties involved , plus you teach children to follow the same step when in a conflict and they gradually learn to solve alone believe me that this practice you will too .
Like everything at first be hard to remember the steps , but that will always be visible and if you do not like this option may seek other methods until you get that suits you.
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How many times have acted impulsively to see two or more children are in conflict, and often the first thing we do is yell , scold , do not want to frighten any child getting hurt and all those actions do not allow us to act appropriately .
Is to some extent understandable , since in our hands we have a great responsibility and we do not want anything happen to the children, but we must learn to remain calm , sounds easy but is not.
The most common causes for children of preschool age fight is because they do not get the results they want, but that does not mean they are bad , remember that they are in a process of learning social coexistence , respect for points of view of their peers , and gain self-control.
A good option that I recommend is that you use some method of conflict resolution, write it on a card and stick it in a conspicuous both for you and for kids , there are many choices but this time we will share the psychologist David P. Weikart and is as follows :
Approach calmly , stopping any action or strong language .
Recognizing feelings.
Gathering information .
Replantenado the problem.
Asking ideas for solutions and choose one together.
Provide support and monitoring as needed.
Following these steps when there is a problem will be much easier solution and especially do not bow down by any of the parties involved , plus you teach children to follow the same step when in a conflict and they gradually learn to solve alone believe me that this practice you will too .
Like everything at first be hard to remember the steps , but that will always be visible and if you do not like this option may seek other methods until you get that suits you.
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